It's not hard to spot one common thing in all successful speeches for best man -- the structure.
Yes! If you've digested my points in the last post what to say in best man speeches, today we're going to stress on how to organize all the materials together in the right way.
The truth is the modern wedding is more flexible these day like who will speak on and lead the toasts. To this end, it is smart that you discuss with the bride and groom about the overall wedding style and procedure before you start the heavy lifting.
The following structure works fine with most of the speeches for best man. I believe it will give you a clear scope of expectation and then you can jump into preparing your best man speech.
And as you may notice that this will be a more detailed version of the content we talked about last time plus the consideration of timing. Hope the overlapping will help you straighten things out and be familiar with what you will be dealing with.
Opening
As we said, normally you will open the speech by people, you, the couple, and your relationship with them. You should show your confidence and ensure that you receive
all the eyeballs of the guests.
Giving thanks
Spend a half minute to thank the main participants, such as the band, ushers and other family members and friends that helped preparing the wedding.
Giving thanks on behalf of bridesmaids
Do not forget this! If the bride has shown his appreciation to the bridesmaids then it time to thanks him on their behalf now.
Congratulating the couple
Let it be faithful and brief. This is the thing you personally want to do the most during your best man speech.
Telling a story about the groom
Refer to our previous post. Just remember telling an funny story doesn't mean you are embarrassing anyone.
Getting Serious
You see the turn from the last one here? You want to be take people out of the jokes and show your sincere respect to the Groom.
Speaking relax again
The power of the structure is here. You get tense, and you get relax. Kinda like a Hollywood movie... people tend to be moved if you follow certain patterns. You can easily achieve this by giving a warm advice to the couple from your heart or reading some humorous message from absentees.
Ending and Proposing a toast
Finally, you could reiterate some gratitudes and finish with a toast to the Bride and Groom.
All right, that's it! And again, you don't have to be rigidly following the above step-by-step, but have a proven structure by hand will definitely make your days easier.
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Great Best Man Speeches: What Do I Say?
It says "with a good start you are already half-win", but it is not always that easy to pick up this "half-win"... especially in the world of best men.
To compose a best man speeche, the first and maybe the hardest part you have to face is pinning down what you are going to talk about. So you really need to spend some supperball time on considering what it this 5 mini-speech is about, what's the content and in what sequence you would like to reveal it.
All the succesful best man speeches do have one thing in common: they make people know the bride (and you) better and share your feeling about his marrige.
Starting by briefly introducing yourself would always be good. Tell the audience the relationship between you and the bride and broom, otherwise they will wonder.
Thank people, the parents and the guests. Traditionally its the bride's parents who are paying for the ceremony, but you'd better make sure first. When you do it try not using like "thank you for PAYING FOR..." but someway subtle, like "MAKE IT POSSIBLE". To the guests just nicely thank them for "being here".
Establish your buddy up. This is the center chapter of all best man speeches. Talk about his loyalty in friendship, his responsibility to family and his passion about love. The best description about this is you are writing a sales letter, and the product you're promoting is your buddy and his love to the bride. This may sound a little weird but it's literally true. I do know some guys feel embarrassing at this point, but do remember that you are going to let everybody know how wondering this guy is. The nature way for people to get the sense it telling a detail-filled story. The audience will like it and traditionally it is the time to show your humor.
Propose a toast at the end. This is why best man speeches are sometimes called best man "toasts". Ultimately you are bringing the amazing moment to everyone by wishing the bride and groom the sweetest. It's totally your call about how to do it. Using a quote or shouting something from you heart simply like "Cheers!", "Congratulations!" or "Salud!" will be cool as long as it is appreciated by all the guest and make them raise the glass.
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To compose a best man speeche, the first and maybe the hardest part you have to face is pinning down what you are going to talk about. So you really need to spend some supperball time on considering what it this 5 mini-speech is about, what's the content and in what sequence you would like to reveal it.
All the succesful best man speeches do have one thing in common: they make people know the bride (and you) better and share your feeling about his marrige.
Starting by briefly introducing yourself would always be good. Tell the audience the relationship between you and the bride and broom, otherwise they will wonder.
Thank people, the parents and the guests. Traditionally its the bride's parents who are paying for the ceremony, but you'd better make sure first. When you do it try not using like "thank you for PAYING FOR..." but someway subtle, like "MAKE IT POSSIBLE". To the guests just nicely thank them for "being here".
Establish your buddy up. This is the center chapter of all best man speeches. Talk about his loyalty in friendship, his responsibility to family and his passion about love. The best description about this is you are writing a sales letter, and the product you're promoting is your buddy and his love to the bride. This may sound a little weird but it's literally true. I do know some guys feel embarrassing at this point, but do remember that you are going to let everybody know how wondering this guy is. The nature way for people to get the sense it telling a detail-filled story. The audience will like it and traditionally it is the time to show your humor.
Propose a toast at the end. This is why best man speeches are sometimes called best man "toasts". Ultimately you are bringing the amazing moment to everyone by wishing the bride and groom the sweetest. It's totally your call about how to do it. Using a quote or shouting something from you heart simply like "Cheers!", "Congratulations!" or "Salud!" will be cool as long as it is appreciated by all the guest and make them raise the glass.
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Great Best Man Speeches: General Advice
Be yourself. You are choosen by the groom to be the best man! This is the first thing you should remember and be confident. This best man speech is going to be your speech, not anyone else's. Do not mimic any heard speech in you mind because people sense it. Use the proper words and show your self to the audience.
Be aware of the time and keep it lightly short. This is almost non-negotiable except you want people to bear you endless ramble in the day that is not about you. 3 minutes -- without a pause at a relaxing speed -- would be the average length for most of the best man speeches. Well.. I have seen several very successful 5 minutes ones but never for one longer than 7 minutes. Even it's funny enough but actually anything longer than 5 miniutes tend to get peoples tiresome.
Rehearse before the day. I usually practice in front of the mirror. It helps you to see what people will see. You want to do so until you feel comfortable and get relaxed about being watched, even by yourself. It doesn't mean you have to get rid of the paper and having a card in hand is not the unspeakble. If you decide to read, do practice reading. Pay attention to the way you make eye contact to the audience.
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Be aware of the time and keep it lightly short. This is almost non-negotiable except you want people to bear you endless ramble in the day that is not about you. 3 minutes -- without a pause at a relaxing speed -- would be the average length for most of the best man speeches. Well.. I have seen several very successful 5 minutes ones but never for one longer than 7 minutes. Even it's funny enough but actually anything longer than 5 miniutes tend to get peoples tiresome.
Rehearse before the day. I usually practice in front of the mirror. It helps you to see what people will see. You want to do so until you feel comfortable and get relaxed about being watched, even by yourself. It doesn't mean you have to get rid of the paper and having a card in hand is not the unspeakble. If you decide to read, do practice reading. Pay attention to the way you make eye contact to the audience.
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Great Best Man Speeches: Warnings!
You don't want your best man's reputation ruined by a single bad-taste joke. Be aware you are not in a locker room. Even for sure you may deliver some funny moments for your buddy and his friends, you really don't want to annoy the bride and her mother. Plus, jokes about the ex of the groom is strictly baned.
Think about it, people might feel boring about those blank best man speeches, trust me, they will hate you if your speech embarrasses the bride for any instance... especially the group of ladies called her friends. So to be save don't use it if you are not sure.
And be careful about the "best man drinks" before the speech and stay clear and sober. You are going to hurt people's impression by not being able to standing straight or getting drunk. Show you respect to the audience so they won't doubt the judgment of the groom.
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Think about it, people might feel boring about those blank best man speeches, trust me, they will hate you if your speech embarrasses the bride for any instance... especially the group of ladies called her friends. So to be save don't use it if you are not sure.
And be careful about the "best man drinks" before the speech and stay clear and sober. You are going to hurt people's impression by not being able to standing straight or getting drunk. Show you respect to the audience so they won't doubt the judgment of the groom.
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